Cow has been turning over this question of high self-esteem and low self-esteem since reading
"Evil : inside human cruelty and violence" by Roy Baumeister.
Because it seems now those raising children are constantly advised to create high self-esteem. And for adults, their failings are often attributed to low self esteem.
Yet, most criminals have very high self esteem according to this book. They aren't wrong, the world is wrong, they think.
To this humble Cow, those with high self-esteem seem to want others and indeed the whole world to adapt to them, because, after all, they are great!
A wasted hour spent watching the auditions for American Idol showed high self-esteem in some contestants. Ones who, despite being terrible, refused to believe they weren't great. Many argued with the judges...and then left still believing they were great and the judges were wrong.
High self-esteem seems to mean that no correction, no matter how deserved, will be accepted. Because they have such high self-esteem they cannot believe they could possibly be wrong, and reject all evidence that might prove it.
Of course there should be a middle ground between high and low. Cow just thinks we're creating people who are Always Right and Do No Wrong with this concentration on self-esteem instead of, for instance, acquiring actual skills and abilities, discipline, willingness to be corrected and to learn.
Or maybe not. Wait! Cow, of course, is always right, so she's right about this too.
Moo!